Tamra’s daughter sets the record straight about estrangement, divorce

Is RHOC the real-world messiest of all Real Housewives? Tamra’s family matters make a strong case.

Last we checked in on Tamra Judge, the Real Housewives of Orange County star was speaking at an event for estranged families and reflecting on the lasting damage of divorce on families such as her own. At the time, it was reported that Tamra and her estranged daughter Sidney, who lives with her father, were on good times. It appears that is not the case for the RHOC mainstay.

After Monday’s episode of RHOC, Tamra’s daughter Sidney shared a lengthy Facebook post that made it indisputably clear that mother and daughter are not on good terms and that daughter is not pleased with her mom speaking so publicly about her and their life. Mostly, she feels like she’s being misrepresented.

Throughout the post, she attempts to set the record straight on a number of things.

First, she says she did not move out of Tamra’s house because of the divorce. She moved out because “the living conditions at [her] mother’s house and the way she treated me and still treats me today.”

Furthermore, she states she initially did choose her mother’s side when her parents separated. (The couple separated in 2010, they divorced in 2011, Sidney moved out in 2013.) Describing the situation as such:

"This was due to the fact that my mother, the true parent alienator, would constantly talk negatively about my father in front of me and my siblings, putting us kids in the middle of my parents arguments. She even called us Simon or “mini Simon” when we did something bad or told us that we were “acting like your father”. This parent alienation caused me to resent my father and take her side. However as I got older I realized what she was doing along with other things that were toxic."

The post gets more damning from there. Sidney accuses Tamra of being neglectful (“leaving us at home with no food or simply ignoring us entirely) and describes her as “mentally and emotionally abusive.”

She also describes how she tried therapy with her mother, but Tamra “is unable to recognize that she is in the wrong and continues to put blame on everything else.”

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The post is quite lengthy and worth the time to read through. Unfortunately for Tamra, there doesn’t seem to be a lot of motive for Sidney to make this up, stating as she does that she really doesn’t want to be in the public eye or involved in her mom’s RHOC storyline or “character.” That said, it’s hard to guess what she’s going through and what’s real. Divorce is complicated and messy enough without running the situation through the million filters of reality TV.