RHOP: Candiace is a walking, talking, breathing paradox

Real Housewives of Potomac star, Candiace Dillard Bassett, is very outspoken and domineering. Ironically, these are all the things she wishes others wouldn’t be to her.

Real Housewife of Potomac’s Candiace Dillard Bassett is known for her pageant queen past. That isn’t always a good thing though, or completely in reference to her past involvement in the beauty pageant circuit and/or lifestyle.

When thinking about how she carries herself, it is really indicative of her attitude. That could help to illustrate some of the things she deals with from her mother.

Here are a few reasons The Real Housewives of Potomac’s Candiace is a walking, talking, breathing paradox.

Like mother, like daughter

Specifically, Candiace has made it a point to let her mother know the things that she wishes she would stop doing to her. These include things like speaking over her, psychoanalyzing her, taking “jabs” at her, amongst other things that make their relationship a bit more mercurial than it has to be.

While I won’t begin to commentate on the relationship between a mother and her daughter in-depth, there are certain surrounding aspects that are worth pondering.

To come right out with it, Candiace is a contradiction of herself. She subjects people to the very same treatment that she wishes she wasn’t subjected to. There are two scenarios where a light can be shined brightly on these facts.

Scenario one

The first scenario in question is the argument sequence near the beginning of Season four’s episode ten outside of their restaurant between Candiace and her husband Chris. She wasn’t willing to hear him out, something she has accused her mother of.

She constantly screamed and talked above him without giving him the opportunity to explain himself, which she does to people often and something else that she accuses her mother of. She also rudely tried to divert away from the situation by threatening to “move him” on her own away from her vehicle, a physical act of aggression, such as the one committed against her by her mother and her handbag.

While there were probably a few more, these few yet more than apparent instances are vivid examples of how Candiace expects to be treated one way when she treats other people the way she doesn’t want to be treated.

Candiace seemed to have a realization in the last episode that it is possible she is part of the problem.  She said she was arguing with all of the people in her life, her mom, her husband, her friends, but the only common denominator here is Candiace herself.

Scenario two

The second scenario is more general in nature than the prior scenario, but it also helps to paint the picture. When thinking about the “jabs” that she constantly takes at Ashley Darby along with those she has taken at Monique Samuels, it isn’t that far off the jabs she doesn’t want to be targeted with.

While Candiace and Monique share a somewhat decent friendship and relationship, Ashley and Candiace may never be friends again. Regardless of the status of her relationship with either of the two ladies in question though, she should never dish out something that she can’t take from someone else.

As the old saying goes, don’t throw stones if you live in a glasshouse.

Some people will try to differentiate, saying things like “it’s different because that’s her mother”, but what is right is right, what’s wrong is wrong, and what is just is most certainly just. She is a walking enigma.

If she doesn’t want to be subjected to certain things or a certain type of treatment, she should not be subjecting others to those same things or that same treatment. Those are just the facts.

Candiace has gone through a lot of change in her life recently, perhaps being on television will benefit her in the long run.  You’ve got to grow up eventually, and maybe Candiace is growing up on our television screens as we watch.

The Real Housewives of Potomac is on Sundays at 8 PM ET on Bravo.